Dating Your Doula: How to Find the Right Birth Support for You

Things to know

  • Every Doula has their own unique philosophy, specialties and personality.
  • You will be working very closely with your Doula through some of the most challenging moments of your life so it is very important to choose a Doula that you vibe with.
  • Take your time to date a few Doulas until you find the right match.
What to consider
1. CHEMISTRY

Most importantly, go with your gut. A great practice in listening to your intuition is to tune into your body and ask yourself: When I’m with this person how do I feel? It really is like dating! If something doesn’t feel quite right, listen to that instinct. If your body is screaming a resounding, “she’s the one,” definitely listen to that. Your Doula’s main role in your experience is to help you FEEL safe, supported, and empowered. A huge reason that you’re hiring her is for the energy and presence that she brings to the experience. So tune into that sensation the moment you meet her and make sure she’s bringing the energy that YOU need. Another great question to ask yourself is: In the past, when I have gone through something intense or have been in pain, what kind of support did I crave?

2. PRICE

Most importantly, go with your gut. A great practice in listening to your intuition is to tune into your body and ask yourself: When I’m with this person how do I feel? It really is like dating! If something doesn’t feel quite right, listen to that instinct. If your body is screaming a resounding, “she’s the one,” definitely listen to that. Your Doula’s main role in your experience is to help you FEEL safe, supported, and empowered. A huge reason that you’re hiring her is for the energy and presence that she brings to the experience. So tune into that sensation the moment you meet her and make sure she’s bringing the energy that YOU need. Another great question to ask yourself is: In the past, when I have gone through something intense or have been in pain, what kind of support did I crave?

3. PHILOSOPHY

Most importantly, go with your gut. A great practice in listening to your intuition is to tune into your body and ask yourself: When I’m with this person how do I feel? It really is like dating! If something doesn’t feel quite right, listen to that instinct. If your body is screaming a resounding, “she’s the one,” definitely listen to that. Your Doula’s main role in your experience is to help you FEEL safe, supported, and empowered. A huge reason that you’re hiring her is for the energy and presence that she brings to the experience. So tune into that sensation the moment you meet her and make sure she’s bringing the energy that YOU need. Another great question to ask yourself is: In the past, when I have gone through something intense or have been in pain, what kind of support did I crave?

4. SPECIALTY

Most importantly, go with your gut. A great practice in listening to your intuition is to tune into your body and ask yourself: When I’m with this person how do I feel? It really is like dating! If something doesn’t feel quite right, listen to that instinct. If your body is screaming a resounding, “she’s the one,” definitely listen to that. Your Doula’s main role in your experience is to help you FEEL safe, supported, and empowered. A huge reason that you’re hiring her is for the energy and presence that she brings to the experience. So tune into that sensation the moment you meet her and make sure she’s bringing the energy that YOU need. Another great question to ask yourself is: In the past, when I have gone through something intense or have been in pain, what kind of support did I crave?

5. AVAILABILITY

Most importantly, go with your gut. A great practice in listening to your intuition is to tune into your body and ask yourself: When I’m with this person how do I feel? It really is like dating! If something doesn’t feel quite right, listen to that instinct. If your body is screaming a resounding, “she’s the one,” definitely listen to that. Your Doula’s main role in your experience is to help you FEEL safe, supported, and empowered. A huge reason that you’re hiring her is for the energy and presence that she brings to the experience. So tune into that sensation the moment you meet her and make sure she’s bringing the energy that YOU need. Another great question to ask yourself is: In the past, when I have gone through something intense or have been in pain, what kind of support did I crave?